About me: objective truth

What do my psychometric tests show?

I have some faith in psychometric testing as a way of gaining a general insight into another human being. The results of my tests won’t help you recognize me in the street but they might give you a guide as to my general direction in life.

I’ve always been finely balanced in Meyers-Briggs tests, on the E/I line but especially on the F/T and J/P measures. I have always been clearly an iNtuitive, however. I am currently settled in as an INFP/J with the last two still too close to call.

This is a slight shift from when I first created this website when I hovered between INTJ and an INFJ.

The TTI Personal Interests, Attitudes & Values analysis reveals:

  • I have stronger than average drives to discover the truth and to uncover the form and harmony in life;
  • I have an average motivation to help others;
  • I have a lower than average drive to make money;.
  • I am only into power as part of a team; and
  • I have a much lower than average interest in maintaining tradition: I don’t hold on to things or ways that don’t work.

In Ayurvedic parlance I’m a pitta-vatta with a strong emphasis on pitta.

For believers in horoscopes my sun is in Pisces, my moon in Virgo and my rising sign is Aries.

I have an IQ that was measured at school as 154. My EQ is 135 on a scale of 1-150. My belief in the significance of these measures is low in terms of social achievement, especially as I freeze at the sight of a test. However, taken with the other factors they do mean that I’m probably going to be able to keep up with you pretty closely and I’m aware enough to know that my ‘insights’ can be as off-target as anyone else’s.

Assorted other tests show the same broad picture of interests and motivations. I’m basically a thinker and communicator with a strong drive to work with others and to follow through on my chosen path. They also show that the quality of my work is more important to me than the income or the fame arising from it.

What has prepared me to act as your coach?

There are three essential components in the preparation of a coach:

  • life experience,
  • professional training,
  • an ongoing commitment to rigorous self-examination and self-development.

Without the third component the first two are virtually useless. Life experience without reflection contains nothing learned and therefore nothing worth passing on. Professional training without rigorous self-examination makes it impossible for coaches to be sure they are acting on their client’s behalf rather than from their own unconscious motivation.

I offer the following personal and professional autobiography to help you in your decision-making.

Life experience

Today I live in Geneva, Switzerland after a stint on the South Coast of the UK. I have lived and worked in the USA, in Massachusetts, New Mexico and Oklahoma. I work out regularly. I haven’t smoked for decades and I only drink socially. I have always been deeply involved with my professional association and the governance of my profession. I read avidly on my subjects and enjoy the challenge of staying abreast of developments in my several fields.

In particular, I enjoy the incredible variety of people I work with and feel fortunate that I have found my niche at last.

But it wasn’t always this way . . .

I was born in 1946, son of a Royal Air Force officer who completed his career in the British Foreign Office. My mother was born and brought up in South Africa, the daughter of an expatriate German mother and English father. I have two sisters, one older than myself, one younger.

My formal education was carried out over ten years at a very traditional English public school. I was intelligent in class and successful at sport but this was not a happy time for me and I rejected the idea of going to university.

I left school at 18, completely unprepared for anything, so in 1965 I moved to London and followed my interests. My first two significant jobs were in boat building (with Jack Holt) and in the film business (with Warner Bros). At the age of 21 I trained as a systems analyst.

This was intellectually and financially rewarding and I worked my way up to IT consultant before moving sideways and becoming an IT industry journalist. I married a music industry journalist and we bought and restored a cottage in the country. We weren’t very good at marriage and after three years we separated.

I left my job and went to work as a deckhand on a classic ketch working out of Antibes in the South of France. I thought of buying a boat and settling there but was sidetracked by the offer of money and friendship and joined another weekly IT newspaper back in London. I had just started editing this when it was sold to a competitor and I was made redundant. My overwhelmed response to finding myself freelance and almost penniless did nothing for the second marriage I had recently entered.

I starting working as a consultant to hi-tech companies, helping them on marketing and marketing communications matters. Most notable among them were IBM, Unisys, Burroughs and a range of software companies whose names have now gone out of existence.

It was in 1978 that I started to take control of my life. Up until then I had lurched on from opportunity to opportunity, totally reactively, with never a serious thought of putting together a strategy to give me the life I wanted – even if I’d known what it was.

I was naturally task-competent, so I stayed busy and financially OK, but I was life-incompetent. In 1978, however, I took a job in the United States and put myself into therapy. The reasons were fairly classic: I was 32, my second marriage had just ended, I was smoking and drinking heavily, and I couldn’t see what I was doing wrong.

But I found out. Over the next fourteen years I maintained a course of individual and group therapy and coaching. It transformed my life. I learnt a tremendous amount about myself and about others and continually tried new things. I married and divorced for a third time. I took a ten-year training as a psychotherapist. Such depth of preparation is unheard of today.

That first period in the USA was a wonderful time of discovery from the business point of view. With the strength of my therapist/coach relationship working with me, I started a number of companies and worked with a number of major US corporations in the Boston area.

Among other things, it taught me that I lack the motivation to figurehead a conventional business enterprise. I am a brilliant right-hand man, a creative chancellor or consigliere, but for my talents to manifest in full I need to collaborate with someone of more directed energy.

Professional Training

The bulk of my psychotherapy training took place at a private institute in Massachusetts, USA that closed during the 1990s. The institute took a very rigorous approach to self-discovery and a strong emphasis on experiential development. It was a requirement, for example, that we remain in weekly individual and group therapy while with the Institute. The Institute integrated aspects of psychoanalysis with humanistic and existential beliefs. Here, over fourteen years, I learned psychotherapy, counseling, supervision and a good part of my coaching skills.

The rest of my formal training has consisted of taking a number of workshops, a diploma course for coaches in sports psychology, another in business coaching, and a prodigious amount of reading and writing. I maintain my own commitment to self-development with weekly sessions with both a psychotherapist and a coach.

Reflection

This is a daily pursuit with me. Whether sweating my way through a 60-minute stint on my rowing machine, or simply sitting with a pad and pen, I am constantly reflecting on life and what I am learning from it. I hold internal dialogues with the writers of the hundreds of books I read; I reflect on the patterns and dynamics of my clients’ lives and activities; I look at my own life and my partnerships. I have written literally millions of words in my journals and drawn countless diagrams in my efforts to understand what makes us tick.

I also reflect in conjunction with those around me: my clients, my friends and my coach. I question until I feel I have a solid base of conviction from which to operate and can then act with strength and focus.

This experience and intellectual and emotional gravity are all appreciated by my clients. Lest that sound daunting, I have a sense of humor, too.

I hope this information has been helpful to you. If you would like to find out more about Dynamic Life Coaching or myself, please use the form below to schedule a free 50-minute ‘phone or Skype discussion.

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